refusing my own interests

 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus..."
Philippians 2:3-5

This passage just cuts right through all the social junk our world feeds us. It breezes right past all the self-help, psychological babble we're fed every day. It challenges everything our human nature tells us... everything in us whispers, "look out for number one," "you first, others second," "what are you going to get out of this?" 

 But God bursts through the door and says that is WRONG. We've been given an example who we're to follow. That means we are to do what he did. We're to look after others even if it KILLS US! How contrary to our culture is that? I'll tell you - it's completely contrary!

I've heard things like, "well I'll be praying for you that you get the right kid. I heard about a couple who adopted and they got a kid with some disabilities... isn't that awful?" Well, I guess it's awful if you're adopting because you want the perfect little child to make your perfect little family to complete your perfect little American dream. But you want to know what my honest thought was? I thought, "That's WONDERFUL! This little one who was cast aside because he was viewed as less than perfect and therefore unwanted has been given a family, a home, and a life!" All because a family decided to look after the interests of others as God commands us through Paul. (I should add that healthy babies need homes too and are just as worthy of being adopted as any other baby. But that's the point... all children are equally worth a home and family!)

This thought applies to every area of life. We tend to consider what we'll get out of a project before we say yes to service. I've been so convicted by this passage lately. To consider others better than yourself, to look after their interests, to give and serve even when it hurts... especially when it hurts... takes great strength, humility, and courage. Oh God... help me - help us. Because we're being fed a bunch of lies... and we're taking them in and letting them change our vision... and the world is suffering because of our pride, greed, and selfish fear.

©2009 Living By Faith


Amber said...

My brother-in-law and sister-in-law adopted their daughter after finding her on the streets of India while they were missionaries there. It has been a difficult road, but they have learned much about themselves and God throughout the process. My niece has come a long way and I am grateful for her parents commitment to her and to the LORD.

Thank you for reminding us to serve God faithfully even when it goes against our culture and our very flesh for that matter.

Side Note: I have awarded you the Versatile Blogging Award. Head on over to check out the details. http://ambocullum.blogspot.com/2010/10/versatile-blogger.html

Thank you again for striving to serve the LORD Jesus!

sallee said...

love this post! thanks!!
we're on our 3rd adoption from ET...take a look at our blog!!
blessings, Sallee

Natalie said...

this is such a beautiful and important thing to remember! Thank you for the reminder today.

JillAileenJones said...

The harder road is one less traveled most often. I am so glad that to God each of us is perfect that no matter if we have disabilities that can be seen or not that none of us is "perfect" and yet God created us to be who we are and each of us is perfect in His eyes. Thank you for this post.

Franchesca said...

This is a beautiful and convicting reminder. Thank you for sharing what was on your heart.


Lara said...

Thanks, Lauren. Lately I've been putting my own interests first. Too focused on my needs and my family and my life.

Our Bigg Family said...

Totally agree. This is a verse I read or say often. It is the signature line on my e-mails. God has convicted me over and over through this adoption process as I have gained so much knowledge of what other's lives are like. I though working in public service for several years as a counselor gave me lots of insight but he has shown me more. I do not what to be the blinded to others needs. I want to my children to grow up realizing that we are not it. That he is 'it' and he expects us to take care of one another reguardless of any and all demographics. Thanks for posting!!

Anonymous said...

all children are equally worth a home and family!


I cannot believe what people say sometimes. I am pretty sure there would have been no Cross if Jesus had been thinking of Himself. Yet He didn't He thought only of US. That He finds us worthy just amazes my heart. He loves us no matter what....and we do not practice that. We want what is best for us...not what may be best for others...or that child.

Love this post Lauren...and LOVE your Heart...and YOU!

MamaMimi said...

Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart!

Amy said...

AMEN!!!! Awesome post- love your heart!!!