*this is for my local pals - the rest of you can just look forward to more pictures in future posts! :)
Now that he's sleeping I have time to write out a few little bits about our "settling in" time. First, we are so thankful for our friends and family who have walked with us throughout this whole process and prayed, cried, and rejoiced with us. You are all so special to us and we love you!
We know that you're all so excited to meet Tucker and we are excited for that too. For the first few days we were not open to visitors other than immediate family. We needed some time to recover from jet lag and let Tucker feel a little more secure in his environment before we added new people into it. Then the three of us got sick, so we needed some time to see our doctors and let our meds take effect which extended our need for no visitors (trust me, you did not want us to share our germs!) We want to thank you for understanding and giving us space for the last two weeks.
We are finally healthy and ready for visitors! All we ask is that you would call or text us before dropping by simply so we can tell you whether or not it's a good time (we nap a lot around here!) We’ve missed you and can’t wait to see you – not to mention we’ve got the cutest little boy to introduce you to!
When you all do get to meet Tucker just be aware that we are "cocooning" which is adoption lingo for controlling his environment and working on attachment and bonding. We are already making great progress, but it's a process that will continue for a couple months. This means that for a little while we will be the only ones to hold Tucker. I know that this is so hard to read because you're aching to get your hands on him, but after 1 1/2 years of research and getting to know our boy, we really feel this is what's best for him. Talking to him, playing with him while he's on the floor, and rubbing his back while we hold him are all great ways to show your love for him while we cocoon.
We’d also like to explain that we’ll be slowly easing Tucker into public environments. We can’t wait to bring him to church and such, but will start slow with that over the next couple weeks. Large crowds are a little overwhelming to him right now. All of this is for the best interest of our son, which we know you all understand because you want the best for him too. He has been through so much hardship and loss in his 5 months and we are simply building the foundation that he unfortunately didn’t get at the start of his life. All this hard work and different approach to parenting will pay off though and soon enough he’ll be out and about just like any other little boy his age!
Thank you for understanding and for loving us and our son so much – we can’t wait to see you all and slowly get back in the swing of things!